Laying down the law at the start of a relationship

It amazes me how many people, especially guys, have no idea what constitutes behaviour worthy of breaking up with someone until it happens.  Have you never thought of this?  Have you not learned from past experiences? Lawing down the law at the beginning of a new long-term relationship is vital for any man.  It lets your woman know what is acceptable and what isn’t.  Without these boundaries in place, she is free to do as she pleases.  

What is the law?

The law can be anything you want it to be from flirting with other guys to outright cheating.  It should include anything that will cause you to dump her.  This will be very specific to what you feel is not acceptable behaviour. Lawing down the law at the beginning of a new long-term relationship is vital for any man. Click To Tweet Let’s take, for example, the super jealous guy.  His list might go something like this:

• Flirting
• Cheating
• Having other guys phone numbers
• Accepting a friend request from a guy
• Looking at a guy the wrong way
• Dressing like a slut
• etc.

This list could probably go on indefinitely, but one thing is for certain.  If you are this kind of guy you don’t stand a chance of having any form of meaningful relationship with any woman… ever.  Don’t be a dick. Let’s have a look at my list for comparison:

• Cheating

That’s it, simple and to the point.  She is allowed to talk to whoever she wants and dress however way she feels like and even flirt with other guys.  None of this is a problem unless she cheats.  

How to lay down the law

This should happen early on, at a time when you know that it is turning into a long-term thing.  You don’t need to sit her down for a serious discussion as this will just make you look like a total douchebag.  Instead, let it happen in normal conversation. Explain to her that if she ever violates your list that you will dump her in a heartbeat and she will never win you back.  If cheating is on your list you should explain what you mean.  Do you mean sleeping with another guy or do you mean kissing another guy, or both.  Be clear on the specifics of your list and keep things simple (don’t have a massive list). You only need to lay down the law once at the beginning.  If you keep repeating yourself throughout your time together it will just make you seem like a needy, frightened little wuss.